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Re: Jane Chin 2013 • "That I Am" - 2007 Competition Speech

Leonard Kim — Tue, 05 Nov 2013 00:05:33 -0000

Great post Jane! It's quite intriguing to see where you were six years ago and where you are today.

I love how, in your video, you mention how you were raised. I can relate on so many levels. I'm glad you were able to overcome your inner battles and find yourself, as you are definitely a beautiful soul. :]

Re: Don’t Pretend to be Outgoing when You’re an Introvert, Instead, Focus on Why You Connect

SexyLibby — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 15:36:36 -0000

This is incredibly interesting advice, and I never thought about it before. I like the idea of being authentically yourself instead of trying to be someone you're not.

Re: Fatherhood Dos and Don’ts

Jane C — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 22:36:07 -0000

You're welcome!

Re: Fatherhood Dos and Don’ts

Edmund — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 21:33:56 -0000

This answered some unresolved questions I had forgotten about. Thanks for this.

Re: Stranger in a Native Land

Jane C — Fri, 18 Jan 2013 11:45:42 -0000

Be my guest! The last line applies to me in many different ways, not only motherhood. I'm getting used to it.

Re: Stranger in a Native Land

Murat Morrison — Fri, 18 Jan 2013 11:08:08 -0000

I am going to steal that last line, I promise. :-)

Re: Backstabbing: Analyze the Situation, not the Backstabber

Koshy Samuel — Sun, 13 Jan 2013 05:17:05 -0000

GET TO THE ROOT CAUSE OF EVERY ISSUE ..

Re: How to Recover from Burn-Out [Grad School Edition]

Jane C — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 02:36:10 -0000

Hi Corelle,

Thank you for writing. A learning disability, however mild, does mean you have to work extra hard -- this is not just a feeling, this is the truth. I commend you for embarking on graduate school and putting this level of commitment and effort into pursuing advanced education. The journey itself can be worth it (not just the destination or arriving at the goal) -- but you can use a support network of friends and colleagues and trusted advisers who understand. Do you have a friend who can be there to give you an encouraging word when you need it?

I believe in you!
Jane

Re: A Ride Through Time

Jane C — Wed, 21 Nov 2012 12:54:36 -0000

Give her one for me :)

Re: A Ride Through Time

Aniket Thakkar — Wed, 21 Nov 2012 00:27:00 -0000

Thanks for sharing this link, Jane. You've had your fair share of troubles growing up, and I'm sure your grandma would be real proud of the person you've grown up to become.

It's amazing how much little encounters with strangers can teach you, and leave you inspired. Hope your cab-lady is doing well. The world can use more people like her.

My grandma is visiting us next week. She's survived four heart-attacks, and is one strong lady. Having read this, I'll be sure to give her a tighter hug, than usual.

Re: 7 Reasons for Mid-Career Crisis and 6 Ways to Get Relief

burnt — Thu, 01 Nov 2012 10:39:53 -0000

I absolutley agree and think this article ks dead on.

Re: Fireflies

Jane C — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 17:40:09 -0000

If you get through this and grow: you get another, maybe harder set of problems, and after a while, when you get used to fumbling around the tunnels, you start enjoying the experience and testing the limits of your resilience.

Re: Fireflies

Wayne Reid — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 00:13:37 -0000

Too many times fireflies are only seen when the light at the end of that tunnel remains elusive, a figment of some far flung imagination. Then, if/when that light arrives, it merely illuminates another tunnel, allowing the traveller to feel rather than see...

Re: Introvert

Wayne Reid — Thu, 18 Oct 2012 22:40:25 -0000

Did your mother have a talk to mine?? My mother also spoke words such as that to me but when I was old enough to understand that this was not me - that I simply did not feel the need to engage in small talk. I have also had Managers above me who have taken me aside and made similar comments. I have learned to shrug it off. It has not been easy. However the longer I have remained in a role, people do learn who I am. I am lucky to have travelled and lived elsewhere. This has taught me that few people work like me. (Which is probably a good thing!)
I also agree wholeheartedly with your final paragraph. Thank you again for opening my gap in understanding just a little wider.

Re: Introvert

Wayne Reid — Thu, 18 Oct 2012 00:12:19 -0000

If one goes through a list of well-known actors (NOT I hasten to add, the so-called celebrities of today) - many are either comedians or comedy actors. What will be found is a list of introverts. People who - in your words - are able to speak "in front of hundreds of people" yet will retreat into their shell at the mere invitation of speaking to an individual. Your "taking a nap" cracked me up. For me, I was always the person going through the host's CD, DVD or book collection - especially the latter. Yet people fascinate me - as long as I do not get involved in long conversations. I have learned the art of asking and responding with open questions; people then tell me their story. In many cases they forget I am actually there. But, those people I make that connection with or the vibe as you name it, a two-way conversation becomes possible and enlightening. The one thing that has caused me the most grief (for want of a better word) is that others do not understand this. I find myself explaining why I do not really want to be a part of this extroverted world.
Your final paragraph truly got home. In a recent public meeting about the crushing role of bureaucracy in the aftermath of Christchurch's earthquakes, I found it easy to stand up and tell the real story of how people were feeling. The entire audience responded - much to the chagrin of the bureaucrats present.
Thank you Jane; again I understand just a little more

Re: My English was Paid for by My Mother’s Donuts

Ibby Anderson-Grace — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 18:43:12 -0000

This is beautiful. I am so glad to know you. <3 I hope to meet your son too.

Re: My English was Paid for by My Mother’s Donuts

arianezurcher — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 14:15:41 -0000

Beautiful Jane. It is an exquisitely loving ode to your son.

Re: Making Peace with “No True Calling”

Wayne Reid — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 02:51:56 -0000

I first came across your website in searching for an open explanation of 'face'; a concept not truly understood in western culture. This I needed to explain to medics the reasons why, here in the west, it was important to understand, in order to be able to communicate with their Asian patients. I use your explanation - referenced back to your website - in many presentations.
However, this has become more meaningful in your posts about your son; posts which I can relate back to my own.
We are who we are. But so often this is forgotten in the rush of the world in which we live.
We do, we forget who we are, until - with effort - we remember we were all once children. Then, anything seems possible.
Until we forget we were once children.
Thank you...

Re: Making Peace with “No True Calling”

Jane C — Sun, 14 Oct 2012 18:31:13 -0000

Thank you Wayne for being a long time reader, and for letting me know. Then you must have been familiar with the iterations of my writing as I explore, ask questions, get frustrated, find a center (however temporary!), explore anew, ask questions, get frustrated....!

The funny thing is, these explorations never get old -- the spirals go deeper within, I may feel echoes of having been "here" before, but I've never "been here, before."
Perhaps this is what keeps me diving deeper. Inner worlds are fascinating places.

Re: Making Peace with “No True Calling”

Wayne Reid — Sun, 14 Oct 2012 03:16:02 -0000

Thank you Jane for your reply...I have followed your blog for a long time now and have responded to others; then recently learned I was pushing the wrong button! In my work as an educator - primary health care - I have recommended your blog to many people as one that not only spans the cultural divide but one that speaks with an intrinsic honesty so lacking in today's world.

Re: Making Peace with “No True Calling”

Jane C — Fri, 12 Oct 2012 18:28:25 -0000

Wayne, you too? You're welcome! There are many of us who have to learn to make peace with no true calling, more than I realize and I'm glad for the good company :-)

Re: Making Peace with “No True Calling”

Wayne Reid — Fri, 12 Oct 2012 00:01:44 -0000

Jane, this post explains a great deal about my own role in this thing we call life.I have often tried to explain this; put it into words but not truly succeeded. Making Peace with no true calling...thank you(I now cannot get the star thingy to work! Ho hum...5 stars anyway

Re: Patterns

Jane C — Sat, 04 Aug 2012 01:40:19 -0000

I'm finding moments of calm in different activities now -- drawing / sketching gives me such moments... also brushing cobwebs from the garden fence and sweeping leaves from the grass knowing that in a few days there will be again cobwebs on the fence and leaves on the grass, and for some reason knowing this feels good.

Re: Patterns

Jane C — Sat, 04 Aug 2012 01:38:31 -0000

OK Laurent :-)

Re: This is How I Remind Myself That Once Upon a Time

Jane C — Sat, 04 Aug 2012 01:37:48 -0000

Hi Wayne -- when I look back at these drawings, especially the sketches with words that help remind me of where I was and what I was paying attention to -- I feel ambivalent. On the one hand, I remember the state I was in most of the time (undiagnosed depression, seasons of sadness) and I was trying to anchor myself in the present by sketching what I saw around me. Now, as I'm 2 decades older, I am using art to anchor myself in the present again but also recalling once upon a time when I remembered to use art as a complement to words when recording my memories. Yet the 40-year old me is happier compared with the 20-year old me, even as I feel the challenges I'm facing today are "higher stakes" than whatever challenges I was facing in my 20s. The 40-year old me is also more self-aware and self-knowing, therefore I feel more steady amid uncertainty.